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SEXercise 9

In western male dominated society men need to learn to relinquish their control and to fully experience relaxation and a total surrender to pleasure.
Societal sexual conditioning has put men in a goal-oriented performance mode.
The goal being a quick release of cum instead of the pleasureful journey leading to that eventual "release". Sort of: "Wham Bam Later"
The Lingam Massage tries to bypass that societal sexual conditioning by allowing man to experience his softer, more receptive side and
thereby experience a new level of pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.

The overall goal of the Lingam Massage is to create a space in which the receiver
can relax, and experience expanded pleasure from his lingam. In reciprocity the giver
of the lingam massage can experience the joy of facilitating and witnessing the receiver surrendering to his softer, gentler side.

Remember, orgasm is not the overall goal of the lingam massage although it can be
viewed as a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is to allow the receiver to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be used to.
This is done through specialized massage techniques of the lingam, testicles, and the perineum
(just to name a few) coupled with finely choreographed breathing exercises.

These exercises when performed correctly allow both receiver and giver to relax completely
and enter into all phases of the massage with minimal anxiety.

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Ideal preparation of the giver and the receiver :

Both should take a relaxing bath or shower.

Both should have gone to the bathroom before beginning the massage seeing that one would not want to interrupt the intensity of the session
for a bathroom break that could have been avoided.

Both the giver and the receiver should look each other directly in the eyes and invite each other to touch and embrace.
This will establish a feeling of trust and respect between the two parties while at the same time making it perfectly clear
that the session will go only so far as both and/or either of the parties will allow.

Have the receiver lie on his stomach and begin the session with a combination of effleurage and petrissage strokes of the back side.
This greatly relaxes the individual and helps to provoke a greater effectiveness in the overall lingam massage.
Also be sure to effectively massage the inner thighs and the perineum (the area between the testicles and the anus).
Have the receiver lie on his back in a comfortable position so that he can easily look up at the giver.
If so desired, place a pillow, covered with a towel, under his hips. His legs should be spread apart with the knees slightly bent so that his lingam
and testicles are clearly exposed for the massage. (For optimal effectiveness, the giver should position himself in a kneeling or cross-legged position
between the receiver's legs.) At this point before initiating contact with the receiver's body, have him begin with deep, relaxed breathing.
Have him inhale deeply exclusively through the nose and exhale completely exclusively through the mouth.
This breathing cycle is a form of pranayama and will completely oxygenate the body while at the same time relaxing it. 
Gently massage the legs, abdomen, chest, nipples, and thighs with a combination of effleurage and petrissage so as to get the receiver to relax.

To initiate the actual massage of the lingam, pour a small quantity of a massage oil on the shaft of the lingam and on the testicles.
Begin the session by gently massaging the testicles, the entire scrotum, the pubic bone, and the perineum, There is no direct order for massaging
these areas so, my advice is to mix and match them to see what works best for the giver and the receiver.


Begin by massaging the shaft of the lingam with varying speed and pressure. Gently squeeze the base of the lingam
with your right hand, pulling UP and sliding off the head. Immediately repeat this action with your left hand. Do this alternating
right-left hand cycle approximately 10 times. Now change direction by starting  at the head
of the lingam squeezing it and then sliding DOWN and off the base. Again, do this alternating right-left hand cycle approximately 10 times.

(For added intensity, repeat 5 times) Now massage the head of the lingam as if you were manually juicing anorange.
Grab the base of the lingam with your left hand while juicing it with your right hand in a counter-clockwise direction. Then switch hand positions
so that you are holding the base of the lingam with your right hand and juicing it with your left hand in a clockwise direction.
Repeat this alternating clockwise-couterclockwise massage of  the lingam approximately 10 times.
For a more complete tantric experience, the giver should be permitted to massage as many different areas of receiver's head, shaft,
and scrotum as possible because in Tantra there are many nerve endings on the lingam that correspond to other parts of the body.

(This is why tantric massage is often referred to as "penis - reflexology").
So be willing to experiment and see what works best for you. In lingam massage if it appears that the receiver is going to ejaculate, 
tell him to concentrate on his breathing and instruct him to breath deeply through the nostrils and exhale through the mouth
while you, the giver continues to perform the lingam massage. Remember, deep breathing is the key and will soften the urge to ejaculate.
If the receiver still feels that he is going to ejaculate then the giver must cease the lingam massage altogether while still having the receiver
continue his breathing exercises. This allows the lingam to soften a little before resuming the massage.

Remember, in tantric massage the goal is not orgasm but rather a full experience of the journey leading up to that
eventual orgasm (i.e. "the Big Bang"). The giver and the receiver should try to go through these cycles as long and often as possible.
Through tantric massage men can learn the art of complete ejaculatory mastery thereby prolonging and possibly increasing
the sexual encounters that they do have. So yes , "You can become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen."
Remember, orgasm and ejaculation are two different responses that we must learn to separate.


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